Today is my 25th birthday, and it feels like I’ve reached a real pivotal stage in my life. I’m as close to my 30s as I am from my teens and I no longer fall into the 16-24 age range. Which is, absolutely terrifying.
As a child I naively thought I’d have my life sorted by now; a career, a house, a family, the works. And things don’t always work out the way you think and here I am, 25, unemployed and living at home after only just finishing my degree that I started 5 years ago. Life put up a lot of obstacles and I may be a little behind in my life plan, but that’s ok, because with difficulties come lessons and I thought I’d reflect on what I’ve learnt so far in my life. Although the past few years have been quite upsetting, I’ve learnt I can either dwell on it and stay holding them hot coals (which are only going to burn me) or I can move past it and appreciate the now a little more.
– There are some things that you can’t change, but you can change the way you react to them and that is such an incredible tool.
– Appreciate your family members whilst you still have them, because you really don’t know what’s around the corner.
– Things won’t always turn out how you expect them to, but that’s ok. It’s how you react that’s important.
– If a dream is nagging you in the back of your mind, do something about it. Because if you don’t, you’ll always be left thinking what if. And the worst that can happen is you end up back where you already were.
– Those little monsters if your head will probably stick around, and some days will be harder than others. A deep breathe and a step outside does help, even if hiding in the duvet sounds like a better option.
– There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed in asking for help.
– People are often worrying too much about what people think of them, to ever really think about you. Sad, but true. So all those times you think your outfit isn’t working, or you looked a bit silly saying what you said, don’t sweat it.
– The day you stop comparing yourself to others is the day your whole mindset will change. You’re doing a great job, even if you can’t see it.
– Sometimes you have to be a little selfish. You are your main priority and you can’t help look after anyone else if you aren’t looking after yourself.
– You cannot control people’s reactions to your actions, accept it. There’ll always be people who don’t like you, just like there’ll always be people you don’t like. What people think of you, is none of your business. Who. Cares.
– Be careful who you choose to have in your life. And there’s nothing wrong parting ways with those who are toxic to your mental health, sometimes the right people just come along at the wrong time.
– Sometimes the best thing you can do is step back, switch off, and spend the day on the sofa with a hot drink and plenty of comfort food.
– Everyone makes mistakes, it’s what you do after that mistake that defines you as a person. Good things can come of misfortune.
– You can’t start on the next chapter of your life if you’re too busy re-reading the last one. Sometimes you have to decide when it’s over and when it’s time to move on. Get out of your own way.
– Old ways aren’t going to open any new doors. Although you may not feel like you’re making much progress, it’s those little steps in different directions that are going to lead to new things.
– And whether that progress is slow or not, it’s better than not trying at all.
– Sometimes working your hardest won’t feel good enough, but you have to keep going. Be patient.
– You can’t always control your thoughts, but you can learn to stop them controlling you.
– Nothing is coming to come from doing nothing. You can’t sit around waiting for things to magically happen.
– There will be people who will walk all over you and take advantage if you let them. Learn to walk away from them, you’re worth more than that.
– You can either feel anxious and sad at home, or you can feel anxious and sat in a new and exciting place. As stressful as travel is, it really is good for the soul.
– You’ve dealt with feeling anxious countless times and you can deal with it for countless times more. It’s rubbish and something you wouldn’t wish on anyone, but it’s also made you appreciate the little things and taught you how important it is to live in the present.
– As cliche as it is, whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Yeah, there’ll still be the mental and physical scars, but it takes the biggest challenges for you to sometimes realise how much of a fighter you really are.
– You are what you do, not what you’ll say you do.
– Things don’t always get easier, but you do learn how to deal with them better.
What are some of the lessons you’ve learnt over the years? I’d love to hear them!